Learnings of the Day

In a world that often dismisses emotions as weakness, it can be easy to forget the fundamental truth about our humanity - that we are beings of feeling, and that it is through these emotions that we truly live. Despite societal pressures to be strong and stoic, it is okay to feel sadness and vulnerability, for it is through embracing our full range of emotions that we can truly grow and thrive. When life becomes overwhelming and the path forward seems uncertain, sometimes we just need something small but powerful, something that gives us back our humanity. Something as small and as powerful as a hug . As family therapist Virginia Satir once said: 'We need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs a day for maintenance, and twelve hugs a day for growth." Thx for reading. 

For today's learning I prefered to write a small poem to describe my learnings about being human: It's human to be sad, and be depressed, and cry all day. It's human to be hurt, and feel angry, and seek revenge. It's human to be confused, and feel anxious,  and feel distress. It's human to be afraid, and feel frozen, or try to escape.   It's human to want to be perfect, and strive for improvement, and seek change. It's human to make mistakes, and feel ashamed, and repeat again. It's human to need others, and feel lonely, and experience despair. But it’s also human: to smile at silly things, to dance without a tune, to love with all your heart, to thrive when there’s some sun, to laugh with others' joy, to help because you can,  to give because you have, to laugh until you cry, It’s human to forget we are humans, there's so much beauty in what we are, lets cherish each day with grace and might, for there's so much beauty in what we unite.

There is a difference between learning and growing. We can take a course and learn new things, but that doesn't mean that we are growing. When we grow, we change; we become different. Growth is a natural process that happens every day. When you postpone that special project or idea that you have always wanted to do, you create a shadow that will follow you, push you down, and make you feel stuck. It doesn't matter the topic – playing guitar, exercising, taking a trip, writing a book, etc. Every day, month, or year that passes by, the shadow becomes heavier, slowing down your growth. The good news is that if you finally find a way to work on that project, your shadow disappears, and your body will feel lighter than ever. You will experience freedom, but it won't be easy. There is a reason you have been postponing it. You may need help – a friend, coach, teacher, or even enrolling in a course or paying for an expensive subscription. Whatever works, even if it is uncomfortable

When we listen to someone we are limited by our brain capability. We are only able to detect between 5 to 10% of information and the rest is automatically filled by our past experiences and view of the world. This is scary! This means most of the time we really don't get the whole idea of what the other person is communicating but the worst is that we believe we do . I have even met people who literally told me: I usually understand faster than others. And other colleagues, specially those that are seen as experts in their field that even interrupt you because they already "understood" what you were saying. What to do about it? Stop assuming you understand. It is not your fault, your brain is not helping you, instead your brain is tricking you to believe you do Before you reply, repeat to the person what you think you heard and ask for validation: is this what you are saying? When to apply it? In theory always but then you will be slowing down the conversation, and it wi

 There are a couple of authors (e.g. John Paul Lederach) who believe conflict is not evil, on the contrary it is needed to grow individually but also as a group or community. Maybe if we learn to see conflict as our friend instead of our foe things would be different.  A conflict, if its doesn't become destructive, could lead to improvement. Think about examples with friends or family, there are conflicts and from those conflicts we adapt and improve our relationship. Without those conflicts things will remain the same and we will not evolve. The problem is that conflict causes tension and stress and physically we can even feel afraid.  I don't think this can change,  but if we are conscious about this, we could take a breath, try to relax, go for a walk and then tell ourselves: "How can this situation improve our relationship?,  probably the issue came because our relationship was missing something: trust, honesty, understanding of our needs.  What can we do now so that o

Sometimes we value what we do. If we are doing great things then we feel we are valuable. We believe we matter. Apparently doing things actually makes us feel valuable but what happens when we are not achieving what we want to achieve? what happens when we are sick and we are just laying down there, what happens when we are not able to finish our project, what happens when we got back feedback from someone, what happens when our work is really bad. In my research to this topic I found this quote: “You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being – not because anybody says so, not because you’re successful, not because you make a lot of money – but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason.” – Wayne Dyer I'm not sure if this really answers my question but it gives me peace at least. It tells me not to search outside, not to google for an answer but that the answer is in my. I am valuable because I decide to believe it, I am valuable because its my life, I am valuable