Learnings of the Day

 There are a couple of authors (e.g. John Paul Lederach) who believe conflict is not evil, on the contrary it is needed to grow individually but also as a group or community. Maybe if we learn to see conflict as our friend instead of our foe things would be different.  A conflict, if its doesn't become destructive, could lead to improvement. Think about examples with friends or family, there are conflicts and from those conflicts we adapt and improve our relationship. Without those conflicts things will remain the same and we will not evolve. The problem is that conflict causes tension and stress and physically we can even feel afraid.  I don't think this can change,  but if we are conscious about this, we could take a breath, try to relax, go for a walk and then tell ourselves: "How can this situation improve our relationship?,  probably the issue came because our relationship was missing something: trust, honesty, understanding of our needs.  What can we ...

 According to John Paul Lederach: “Conflict can be understood as the motor of change, that which keeps relationships and social structure honest, alive, and dynamically responsive to human needs, aspiration, and growth”   Conflict seems to be needed to change but also to humanize structures and improve relationships, assuming the conflict does not become destructive of course.   I've seen in the last years, maybe due to Corona that the number of conflicts specially at work has decreased maybe because we lost the relationships we had. I've also seen a decrease in engagement specially when using Chats or Emails.  Could it be that the use of technology in communication has led to a decrease in conflicts and engagement, causing the need for more constructive conflict in life to drive change and evolution.  I mean,  we know that conflict will only make us feel bad. So why should I try to create conflict even if my goal is to improve processes? What is ...